September at TOL.
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Lucky-
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BillyBob-
The talking wiht your mouth full comment: :darwinsm:
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BillyBob-
The talking wiht your mouth full comment: :darwinsm:
Flipper
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Firechyld:
True enough. It's pretty easy for bi people to just blend into the standard social fabric if they're not in a same sex relationship, but it's also rather dishonest unless they want to/are able to disavow the whole thing and choose instead to identify as straight. In which case, fine. However what often happens is that they aren't honest with their partner about their sexuality and they may end up cheating on them.
Honesty is best, whether someone is in an open relationship or not. In my case, I was honest with my wife about my sexuality before we ever dated and I also chose to take my marriage vows seriously. Not simply because I gave my word but also because I love my wife and it's immoral and unkind to selfishly hurt anyone, particularly someone you love.
I was bisexual for more than 12 years, obviously. It's just that it was 12 years ago that I was willing to admit to myself who I was. Before that I was a highly closeted and badly conflicted person. Once I was willing to accept the truth of who I am, it ceased to be such a great big deal and burden, and I was able to get on with my life. Honesty and responsibility is definitely the best policy.
Elohiym
Ha! They don't come around often enough though.
True enough. It's pretty easy for bi people to just blend into the standard social fabric if they're not in a same sex relationship, but it's also rather dishonest unless they want to/are able to disavow the whole thing and choose instead to identify as straight. In which case, fine. However what often happens is that they aren't honest with their partner about their sexuality and they may end up cheating on them.
Honesty is best, whether someone is in an open relationship or not. In my case, I was honest with my wife about my sexuality before we ever dated and I also chose to take my marriage vows seriously. Not simply because I gave my word but also because I love my wife and it's immoral and unkind to selfishly hurt anyone, particularly someone you love.
I was bisexual for more than 12 years, obviously. It's just that it was 12 years ago that I was willing to admit to myself who I was. Before that I was a highly closeted and badly conflicted person. Once I was willing to accept the truth of who I am, it ceased to be such a great big deal and burden, and I was able to get on with my life. Honesty and responsibility is definitely the best policy.
Elohiym
Ha! They don't come around often enough though.
firechyld
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Originally posted by elohiym
Actually, you and Flip had an entire year. The bicentennial!
Lol!
Nicely done.
I should point out that my area celebrated Australia's bicentennial by building a giant playground, with all the playground equipment scaled up to adult size. Appropriate, no?
firechyld
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Flipper...
It depends on your interpretation. I'd never lie to a partner about my sexuality. I honestly don't understand how people can. But they obviously do... I guess they're dealing with things I can't understand, although that doesn't excuse their actions.
But I digress.
It depends on how you interpret your sexuality. My partner and I are both happily bisexual, but we consider ourselves to be in a heterosexual relationship. Doesn't change the fact that we ourselves are not heterosexual. *shrug* It's just a label for a specific dynamic.
Quite.
Very true, and all something I can empathise with. I would never breach the boundaries of a monogamous relationship.
It's a journey... I remember when you didn't want to come out to TOL.
But you're right... honesty is always the best policy.
Now I think we should stop hijacking their "straight pride" thread with all our happy bisexual joy before a vengeful heterosexual moderator makes with the smite button. *grin*
My apologies for the diversion... viva la mois hétérosexuel de fierté!
It depends on your interpretation. I'd never lie to a partner about my sexuality. I honestly don't understand how people can. But they obviously do... I guess they're dealing with things I can't understand, although that doesn't excuse their actions.
But I digress.
It depends on how you interpret your sexuality. My partner and I are both happily bisexual, but we consider ourselves to be in a heterosexual relationship. Doesn't change the fact that we ourselves are not heterosexual. *shrug* It's just a label for a specific dynamic.
Quite.
Very true, and all something I can empathise with. I would never breach the boundaries of a monogamous relationship.
It's a journey... I remember when you didn't want to come out to TOL.
But you're right... honesty is always the best policy.
Now I think we should stop hijacking their "straight pride" thread with all our happy bisexual joy before a vengeful heterosexual moderator makes with the smite button. *grin*
My apologies for the diversion... viva la mois hétérosexuel de fierté!
rock salt-
You could use the image in my avatar.
You could use the image in my avatar.
philosophizer
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I thought Lighthouse was against conjoined twins.
the Sibbie
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Lucky, I really like your avatar. I looked and looked for a good pic of the flood but the best I could come up with is the one I have now. But your's is very cool. I especially like the way the boat is in action and the colors are great.
I'm getting jealous...