Nang, any doctrine that says there's a God who creates people with the express intent of creating them to be damned to suffering has no love in it whatsoever. I don't happen to be bitter about anything Nang as I don't believe such a vile belief system is remotely true to start with.
The only alternative to God creating as He did, knowing that those created in His image would fall short of His Godly glory . . being creatures and not Gods . . would have been for God to not create at all.
Which would mean you and your family would never have existed at all.
Would denying you a being and life altogether, have been more loving of God?
Or is ridding creation of all that is destructive, wicked, unjust, sinful and ungodly, for the sake of many made righteous, not just? Does not justice bring glory to both God and man?
Why do you only find fault, instead of hoping for the good?
The Holy Scriptures are replete with wonderful and salvific promises, ratified and sealed and guaranteed by God Himself . . why not cast your human lot upon these, by telling your family about what God has worked for good, rather than living in discouragement to what has been worked and brought about by bad seed?
Are you blaming unbelief harbored by anyone, including those you love, on God? Why?
When you clearly see the evil brought about by unbelieving men, who deserve everlasting justice . .
why shake your fist at God for dispensing justice to put them away forever and ever?
It is our human duty to align our emotions, intellects, will, and actions with the good purposes and powers of God Almighty. Only then do we discover the depths of the love of God.