And I did answer. Sorry you missed that. I won't assume your mistake is a lie.
Your answer:
"assume its what rises to the biblical level"
Is not an answer, because that still leaves what you think rises to that level may differ from what someone else thinks, meaning you need to DEFINE your terms.
You have not done that yet, one more time for the upteenth time, define an example of what YOU think rises to that level. Then i will tell you what i think based on your example.
To rephrase, the conscience of the woman will indicate abuse. When she believes she is being abused, she is being abused.
Then you believe abuse in marriage, is anything a woman wants to define it as meaning?
If that is your definition, give an example in detail.