Thank you Mr. Divider. Perhaps if we try we may be able to discuss this oft emotionally-laden subject with love and civility. I had the experience of discussing the nature of God with someone over a four month period one time, so I am somewhat familiar with the perspectives of multiple sides. As such I think I understand some of what various sides mean here, I will do my best to explain issues as I understand them, but be careful not to be so quick to label someone's understanding of God as "heresy" just because it may differ from your own. If it holds to the important points as outlined in scripture and produces proper fruit, that should be our measure.
First, I'll say up front that I don't buy the "We should accept doctrines that are not in scripture" stance. That's not even a slippery slope, that's sliding down the slope from the start. I've heard the excuse "So what if my doctrine isn't proved in scripture we accept the Trinity and it's not in scripture" excuse a lot. That's not a good sign, we don't want to go that route.
Second, from your "pile of baloney" comment I take I shall interpret that you aren't able to show point to a scripture that defines what your criticize as heresy. As such, please withdraw such accusations until such a time as you have authoritative backing from scripture. James White or the Athanasian Creed is not scripture.
Third, you said that you were concerned about the concept of prayer. Yet Jesus when Jesus raised Lazarus he said out loud that the Father heard him always. So if Jesus prayed, why did he pray? Don't his next words tell us? It wasn't because he needed God to hear him. I can post the relevant passages if it helps, but I trust that you may recall this simply by reference.
Fourth, neither of you are without explanation for how Jesus could be with with the Father from the foundation of the world. I assume that you perceive Jesus as being a separate person, she perceives him being the same person. At least for that question it works either way.
Fifth, if you are claiming that Jesus is the "child" of the Father then the Trinity doctrine itself declares you as a heretic.
Sixth, if you search the bible for instances of "Son" and "Father" it appears as if this is a distinction that only occurs within the realm of the New Testament. There is a prophetic reference to "Son" in the Psalms "Kiss the
son lest he be angry" but the only reference to "Father" assigns that name and title to Christ "His name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, a mighty God,
the Everlasting Father, the Prince of Peace." You are correct that "Father" only exists in contrast to "Son" in scripture, but is not sufficient to say they are different people.
Seventh, if it interests you, have you ever checked to see how many "persons" are used in reference to God? With the word "person?" The word "person" is only used in the singular, and it says that Jesus is the express image of his (God's) person.
3Who being the brightness of his glory, and the express image of his person, and upholding all things by the word of his power, when he had by himself purged our sins, sat down on the right hand of the Majesty on high;
That would be person, singular, not "the express representative of their persons" ....
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My point being is that someone can have sincere biblical reasons to disagree with your interpretation. You may not agree with her description and the words she uses, but the words you have chosen could mark you as a heretic by that same Trinity standard. What I would suggest is to make sure that there is agreement on what scripture mandates:
1) There is One God
2) In the beginning was the Word, and the was was with God, and the Word was God
3) God was manifest in the flesh, seen of angels, justified by the spirit, received in glory...
The rest is for you to figure out how to understand. Jesus and his apostles didn't see fit to preach a Trinity. Take care not to judge another man's servant, for we shall all be judged by Christ. Salvation is not dependent on understanding each and every mystery, and we can be saved without a perfect understanding of doctrine. What matters above all is our capacity for love, repentance, and forgiveness.