csuguy
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This discussion will not get very far unless you discuss what 'love' actually entails. It is concept where the English language is rather poor and limited, as love can refer to many different forms of relating to others. It is not a given that love requiers desire and attachment. As far as I understand it, metta is defined as 'love without attachment'. A love that is the universal in the sense that it wishes the well being of all things. Agape is not that dissimilar, it is wishing the well being of others, which does not necessarily mean attachment to them. And of course, the simple distinction between eros and agape in much of Christian theology is not very satisfactory. The reality is far more complex. The difference might be that that some form of eros/desire is part of the Christian form of love (but eros must be freed from the false conception of it as mere possession of the other).
Point is that there are rather complicated concepts at the bottom of this discussion.
It is a given that the kind of love talked about in Christianity requires desire and attachment - attachment to the individuals and a desire for their well-being, for their salvation, and for everyone to be reconciled together as children of God. Christian love requires very real sacrifice on the part of the individual for the sake of others - with the greatest act of love being to give one's life for the sake of another. Love is the basis for everything in Christianity - how we live our lives, our morals and values, and our very purpose.
Even God is love. And do we not witness in him great desire and attachment as a result? Has he not suffered on our account? And I do not refer only to Christ's sacrifice, though that more than establishes the point on its own - but we see throughout scripture a constant battle that God is fighting with us and for us - to save us and bring us back to what is right and good, with man constantly returning to his sins like a dog to his throwup. Was he not greatly saddened by the flood? Or angered by the Jews when they created the Golden Caph? Even to the point of threatening to destroy them all and restart with Moses? To say that the love of God does NOT entail attachment is clearly false.
To say that Christian love does not require attachment and desire is to ignore everything the Christianity is. You cannot love and feel nothing for your neighbor - you cannot be detached from their well-being and suffering. You cannot watch them in their time of need and suffering and not yourself desire to help them. Even one's enemies are to be loved - we are not to rejoice at their destruction, but feel great sorrow at their loss.
All of this is absolutely incompatible with Buddhism, which seeks to escape the suffering caused through such attachments. So much do they fear suffering that they would abandon all the good and joy that true love brings and exchange it for an escape.
The biggest difference between the two religions is the end goal. An extinguishing of the person is incompatible with Christianity, it only seek to extinguish a false self, that is the self that is wrongly oriented away from God and neighbor. The other would be the impersonal karma versus the personal God that is love and who is merciful.
The end goal, the means to get there, and the underlying concepts justifying them. In short - just about everything between the two is contradictory.
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