Best Friends Not Allowed

[Tambora]

I would guess the school just doesn't want the kids who never get invited to anything to have to publicly go through that every time a classmate's birthday party comes around.

They are going to know they were not invited anyway.

And if there is truly a child in the class that NEVER gets invited to anything, he certainly isn't going to feel good when he, himself, invites everyone in the class and none show up.
Or even worse, he is invited, along with the whole class, due to the rule, and everyone at the party ignores him because they didn't want him there to begin with.
So the rule is NOT going to prevent his hurt feelings.

Is it really so burdensome to have your kid call up his friends?

No more burdensome that asking them at school.
Nothing wrong with doing it either way.

 

[Tambora]

Or stop telling kids that they should plan their birthday parties on their own time, because some kid might "feel hurt" that he didn't get to do it in school?

It's pure insanity!

Next up ...... eliminate happy birthday parties for children because some kid might have hurt feelings.

It is indeed pure insanity.

 

[glassjester]

They are going to know they were not invited anyway.

And if there is truly a child in the class that NEVER gets invited to anything, he certainly isn't going to feel good when he, himself, invites everyone in the class and none show up.
Or even worse, he is invited, along with the whole class, due to the rule, and everyone at the party ignores him because they didn't want him there to begin with.
So the rule is NOT going to prevent his hurt feelings.

No more burdensome that asking them at school.
Nothing wrong with doing it either way.

I don't see how this is a political issue.

It's just poor manners to use school time to publicly distribute anything, while excluding the people you don't like. It's not that giving things to your friends is wrong, it's that publicly doing so is impolite.


How would you feel about a child bringing in cupcakes on his birthday, and giving them out at school, but only to the kids he likes? Would that be acceptable?

 

[glassjester]

Next up ...... eliminate happy birthday parties for children because some kid might have hurt feelings.

It is indeed pure insanity.

Do you think the kid that "feels hurt" because he didn't get to distribute invitations at school, should just suck it up?

 

[Tambora]

I don't see how this is a political issue.

It is.
It is the left dragging little children into their agenda of witch hunting for any little tidbit they can claim as oppressive.

It's just poor manners to use school time to publicly distribute anything, while excluding the people you don't like. It's not that giving things to your friends is wrong, it's that publicly doing so is impolite.

No it is not wrong.
It's a personal happy birthday party.

A happy birthday party is not something in which those that are not wanted should be invited!!!!!!!
To make up some rule that it's wrong to only invite those you want to be at your party is INSANE!

How would you feel about a child bringing in cupcakes on his birthday, and giving them out at school, but only to the kids he likes? Would that be acceptable?

Yes.
Nothing wrong with a kid that wants to do that.

This notion that one must include those they do like like to attend and share their personal happy birthday party is BULL.
Adults don't do that.
So why impose that nonsense on little children, as if they are somehow bad oppressive people, to do so?

Good grief, this country has gone bonkers and lost their minds.

 

[Tambora]

Do you think the kid that "feels hurt" because he didn't get to distribute invitations at school, should just suck it up?

Why would you want to make a little child have to feel bad for something that is not wrong to do?

Why act as though the child is using the school intercom to invite?
He's not doing that at all.
He's either just asking the kids he likes or is slipping them a little invitation card.
There is NOTHING wrong or bad about that.

 

[glorydaz]

You have to intentionally hurt someone to teach them about feelings?

A burnt hand might really drill into a kid not to touch a hot stove but are you going to purposely hold their hand on it?

I was joking. Good grief. :doh:

 

[Tambora]

The school rule is insane because it is based on a lie.
It's an empty gesture.
Inviting everyone in class does not eliminate hurt feelings of the child who is not wanted at the party.
He's still going to know he was not wanted at the party.

 

[glassjester]

Why would you want to make a little child have to feel bad for something that is not wrong to do?

Why act as though the child is using the school intercom to invite?
He's not doing that at all.
He's either just asking the kids he likes or is slipping them a little invitation card.
There is NOTHING wrong or bad about that.

So either way, a kid's feelings are going to get hurt.

Kid A - His feelings get hurt because his classmates hand out invitations several times throughout the school year, in school, right in front of him - and never invite him.

Kid B - His feelings get hurt because he wanted to bring his party invitations to school, but instead had to invite his friends to his party by calling them up on the phone. (Note - he still got to invite only the kids he wanted).

You're seeking to protect a kid's "precious feelings" just as much as the "liberal" school is.

Why should you care more about Kid B's "hurt feelings" than Kid A's?

 

[glassjester]

The school rule is insane because it is based on a lie.
It's an empty gesture.
Inviting everyone in class does not eliminate hurt feelings of the child who is not wanted at the party.
He's still going to know he was not wanted at the party.

Ug... the solution is not to invite everyone.
The solution is to do your party inviting on your own time - not school time!

 

[glassjester]

Why would you want to make a little child have to feel bad for something that is not wrong to do?

Why act as though the child is using the school intercom to invite?
He's not doing that at all.
He's either just asking the kids he likes or is slipping them a little invitation card.
There is NOTHING wrong or bad about that.

So you're ok with a kid bringing cake into school, and only letting some kids have a piece - but not others. That's ok, right?

 

[Angel4Truth]

How does discipline relate to the context of this thread?

It related to acw's post, on hurt feelings, there are loads of examples where hurt feelings arent bad things and result in character building.

(Acw claimed hurting someones feelings is bad after i claimed that not doing so in many cases results in the snowflakes of today who cant handle being told no because of their precious feelings)

get it now?

Heres another example for you, should a young lady have to put up with unwanted persuit so she doesnt hurt someones feelings?

Relates to feelings being hurt as a reason not to invite kids to a party, same premise. (hurt feelings is the point)

And no Rusha, discipline isnt abuse.

 

[Angel4Truth]

Ug... the solution is not to invite everyone.
The solution is to do your party inviting on your own time - not school time!

What if you dont know their phone number? Why cant they give them in the hall?

Tambora is right, you think the ones not invited, will never know about the party?

 

[Angel4Truth]

So you're ok with a kid bringing cake into school, and only letting some kids have a piece - but not others. That's ok, right?

yes, kids share sweets in their lunch with friends all the time, they shouldnt have to share with the whole school.

 

[glorydaz]

So either way, a kid's feelings are going to get hurt.

Kid A - His feelings get hurt because his classmates hand out invitations several times throughout the school year, in school, right in front of him - and never invite him.

Kid B - His feelings get hurt because he wanted to bring his party invitations to school, but instead had to invite his friends to his party by calling them up on the phone. (Note - he still got to invite only the kids he wanted).

You're seeking to protect a kid's "precious feelings" just as much as the "liberal" school is.

Why should you care more about Kid B's "hurt feelings" than Kid A's?

I think the idea is that adults should stay out of these things.....they aren't bullying or hitting each other. Let the kids be kids.

 

[Tambora]

So either way, a kid's feelings are going to get hurt.

Kid A - His feelings get hurt because his classmates hand out invitations several times throughout the school year, in school, right in front of him - and never invite him.

Kid B - His feelings get hurt because he wanted to bring his party invitations to school, but instead had to invite his friends to his party by calling them up on the phone. (Note - he still got to invite only the kids he wanted).

You're seeking to protect a kid's "precious feelings" just as much as the "liberal" school is.

Why should you care more about Kid B's "hurt feelings" than Kid A's?

Wake up.
Getting rid of this stupid rule will not hinder kid B because, as you pointed out, ALL are WANTED kids for the party.
This stupid rule is supposed to eliminate hurt feelings of kids that are not wanted.
As we see, and as common sense should have told you, it does not.

 

[Tambora]

yes, kids share sweets in their lunch with friends all the time, they shouldnt have to share with the whole school.

Exactly.

 

[Tambora]

So you're ok with a kid bringing cake into school, and only letting some kids have a piece - but not others. That's ok, right?

YES YES YES.

In school, as in everywhere else in the world, there are going to be some folks that like you more and some folks that like you less.
And you shouldn't be telling any child that they are mean, bad, offensive, rude, etc. for sharing HIS cake with HIS friends.
Good grief, that's what friends do.

What we are really talking about here is jealousy.
Jealously that other kids have more than you do, including more friends than you have.
Jealousy is not a good trait to be encouraging in children.

 

[Arthur Brain]

It related to acw's post, on hurt feelings, there are loads of examples where hurt feelings arent bad things and result in character building.

(Acw claimed hurting someones feelings is bad after i claimed that not doing so in many cases results in the snowflakes of today who cant handle being told no because of their precious feelings)

get it now?

Heres another example for you, should a young lady have to put up with unwanted persuit so she doesnt hurt someones feelings?

Relates to feelings being hurt as a reason not to invite kids to a party, same premise. (hurt feelings is the point)

And no Rusha, discipline isnt abuse.

Discipline itself isn't but causing hurt for no good reason isn't discipline, therein lied Rusha's point I believe.

 

[Rusha]

Discipline itself isn't but causing hurt for no good reason isn't discipline, therein lied Rusha's point I believe.

:freak: Obviously. A child who is taught good manners and consideration for others would have no desire to unnecessarily hurt the feelings of their fellow classmates by publicly excluding them from their party.