Except for the double standard part, which you did not explain, I agree with the above as accurate enough to agree with, as far as it goes.
The double standards would have to do with expecting more from women insofar as acceptable behavior as compared to men ... which includes turning a blind eye to criminal offenses.
What you, as a nonbeliever, leave out is the accountability factor. Accountability, on ALL sides, ultimately to God. Not just for one's actions but for the impact one's actions will have on others, who in turn are responsible for THEIR actions. NO ONE involved in these scenarios is morally off the hook, but that's what's been ignored or misrepresented in every one of these threads. THAT'S been the double standard here.
The double standard has been defending the use of criminal offenses and violence towards those who have committed neither. By focusing on victims, the offender is being defended.
Immorality may be in the eye of the beholder to us, but ultimately it's in the eye of God. Some of us believe that; others don't. Some who say they believe it don't seem to believe it very strongly. But without FIRST agreeing on what exactly morality/ethics/modesty is, this kind of thread will always go nowhere fast.
Do you want to try herding the cats on that one -- see what people believe "morality" even is, and where we get it? Artie used the term first in this thread and I don't even know what he considers moral and immoral, but I'll bet it doesn't sync with my definitions.
It probably doesn't sync, in every aspect, to mine either. However, I will go with intentionally harming others as a good starting point.
Of course, we would most likely disagree on what *always* harms others.