Knight said:
When God grieves (because of us) our relationship is affected (unless of course you would like to redefine the words relationship or affected).
God doesn't like to grieve. God would rather He not grieve. God would rather we not misbehave. When we do misbehave God grieves. The difference between God grieving and not grieving is the difference in our relationship with Him at any given moment.
When God is grieving (because of me) our relationship contains the element of grief. When God is not grieving (because of me) our relationship DOES NOT contain the element of grief.
Do you mean that if we act like we are dead and do the thing the dead do then we are somehow less than a child of God? Let me ask you, If your child got into the wrong crowd and participated with them in some unlawful behavior and was caught, would you disown that child or correct that child? Would you not love that child and correct your child? Would you be hurt emotionally by what the child did? Yes. Would you correct that child out of anger or love? Did the child miss the mark of your expectations? Yes. Is this missing the mark what you are calling sin? Your relationship between you and your child did not change did it. Just how the love in the relationship is expressed changes.
Hebrews 12:4 ¶Ye have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin.
5 And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him:
6 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.
7 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?
8 But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.