When Scripture quotes itself, it's useful to find the source...
Mala 1:1 The oracle of the word of the Lord to Israel through Malachi. 2 "I have loved you," says the Lord. But you say, "How have You loved us?" "[Was] not Esau Jacob's brother?" declares the Lord. "Yet I have loved Jacob ; 3 but I have hated Esau, and I have made his mountains a desolation and [appointed] his inheritance for the jackals of the wilderness." 4 Though Edom says, "We have been beaten down, but we will return and build up the ruins"; thus says the Lord of hosts, "They may build, but I will tear down; and [men] will call them the wicked territory, and the people toward whom the Lord is indignant forever." 5 Your eyes will see this and you will say, "The Lord be magnified beyond the border of Israel!"
Malachai is ostensibly the LAST prophet before the intertestamental period, after the exile, and a thousand yeard after Jacob died. This is NOT speaking of the
individuals Jacob and Esau, but of Israel and Edom, the nations for which
these two are the fathers.
So, no, God did not specifically HATE Esau as an individual from birth. Jacob was simply the one chosen
to be the one through whom the promise to Abraham (and Adam) would be fulfilled.
Can we finally put this to rest?
Muz