Oh, sort of like when I guy loses his wife over adultery or pornography or because loses a boat load of money by foolishly sending it to strangers from an internet website.
In that scenario, I might find deserved or earned applicable.
If your husband is looking at pornography, it's really both of your faults.
I don't really need to explain why.
Since you want to bring up the paradigm of man and wife, and who deserves what- I know a woman who has been married many times over the past twenty five years, and she says constantly that she 'deserves to be happy'.
You wanna know the reality?
She doesn't.
Her children deserved to be happy, at least half of those husbands deserved to be happy.
But instead, a woman acts in rebellion and rather than actually care about somebody other than herself, she goes and makes everyone miserable with her selfishness and inability to submit to their husband.