I believe God desires that no one will perish. 2 Peter 3:9 states: "The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance."
God has no unfulfilled desires, GM.
It would be unbiblical to say that God has a
divided heart with more than one will (the faculty and power of using one's will). The Bible makes it abundantly clear that God does all His will:
"Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times the things that are not yet done, saying, My counsel shall stand, and
I will do all my pleasure: Calling a ravenous bird from the east, the man that executeth my counsel from a far country: yea, I have spoken it, I will also bring it to pass; I have purposed it, I will also do it." (Isaiah 46:10, 11)
"In whom also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestinated according to the purpose of him
who worketh all things after the counsel of his own will:" (Ephesians 1:11)
"And all the inhabitants of the earth are reputed as nothing: and
he doeth according to his will in the army of heaven, and among the inhabitants of the earth: and none can stay his hand, or say unto him, What doest thou?" (Daniel 4:35)
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Whatsoever the LORD pleased, that did he in heaven, and in earth, in the seas, and all deep places." (Psalms 135:6)
"But
he is in one mind, and who can turn him? and
what his soul desireth, even that he doeth." (Job 23:13)
In other words, all that God desires He accomplishes. Hence, your claim 2 Peter 3:9 teaches us God desires no one will perish cannot mean what you claim it means when taking into account the full counsel of Scripture. We know some actually do perish.
Given this plain fact, and to avoid claims that contradictions exist in Holy Writ, we are required to check what we have concluded the passage is teaching against all that Scripture teaches us about the matter.
We must give proper regard to the language of Scripture when it speaks about God's "
desire". Failing to do so results in representing God, not as incompetent to obtain what He desires, but as unwilling to have what He apparently desires and is fully competent to obtain.
There are a multitude of deliverances given in the Scriptures with regard to this subject. Commissions to preach the gospel to all without exception as well as commandments to believe on the name of Jesus Christ and to repent. There are promises to the effect that whosoever will may come, that he who thirsts may drink of the water of life freely, that they who are weary and heavy laden are invited to come to Christ that He might give them rest. We even have examples of the preaching both of the Lord Himself and of His apostles. Surely, if there were such a
desire in God with regard to the salvation of all men without exception, that desire would be expressed in those places which have more particularly to do with the gospel offer. Such a desire, however, is not so much as even insinuated by those places.
Accordingly, we are driven back to increase our understanding about what exactly "desire" means in this particular passage and others like it. Clearly there is a difference between what God commands as
precepts (rules) that we
ought to do as our duty and that which God decrees, what will be done. Such a distinction must never be understood as implying that God has two wills. What
will be done relates to the futurition and the event of things and is
the rule of God’s external acts. The what
ought to be done per God's commands is concerned with precepts and promises and is
the rule of our action.
For it is clear from the above definition that the word will is being used in two different senses, i.e., equivocally, having two distinct points of reference. It is only the will of decree which is
the will of God in the proper sense of the term, as
an act of volition (faculty and power of using one's will) for therein God has decreed what shall be done.
The will of what ought to be done has
no volitional content, for it simply states what God has commanded
ought to be done by man. Whether man wills to do it is absolutely dependent upon whether God has decreed that he shall do it. So it is quite inappropriate to say that God wills something
to be with reference to His will of command, for the preceptive will (what ought to be done) never pertains to the
futurition of actions, only to the
obligation (our duty) of them.
Had God decreed the salvation of all men, it would be possible to predicate “
that God desires the salvation of all men.” Since, however, God has not decreed the salvation of all men—for not all are saved, and what God decrees cannot
not happen—but has only commanded that all men be saved, and since God’s preceptive will only commands what
ought to be done, the most that can be said is that God desires that all men be under an
obligation to be saved.
At most, all that can be affirmed is that God desires that such and such
should be done by man, not that God desires that such and such
shall be done. Any desire or delight in God with regard to the performance of what He has commanded is entirely hypothetical, or conditional upon the falling out of events in accordance with His foreordination of them. To posit a desire in God that something shall fall out which He has determined shall not fall out is absurdity. This divides God, by introducing contrariety into His nature. It supposes
that there are desires in God that are never fulfilled. That God is hoping (wringing His hands, as it were) for something to happen or not happen that He should well know is not going to happen or actually happen. This cannot be so given Scripture's teachings to the contrary.
Bottom line, if one believes that God truly has volitional desires that remain unfulfilled, then one lands where you have landed on the meaning of the passage in question or your earlier appeal to the Lord's lament over Jerusalem.
None of these passages are dependent upon one's presupposed Calvinism or anti-Calvinism. Rather, they both and all Scripture for that matter, are dependent upon proper hermeneutical methods to interpret Scripture aright.
AMR