eider
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Well yes, it is a choice too, if i thought my neighbors husband was hot, would it be ok for me to dwell on it and later attempt to seduce him?
Attraction doesnt = ok. Thats a poor argument.
This is soooo interesting!
In order to condemn the condition of 'intense sexual attraction' and not finding that quite strong enough to trash, you add 'and later attempt to seduce him.'
Now, I do think that intense sexual atraction, even unrequited love, is extremely traumatic and does often need a great deal of support to endure, avoid or ignore, but rather than look upon this as, say, socially unacceptable and sinful it does need love and understanding.
You're '....and later attempt to seduce him' is totally different, this action a devious and destructive force, smashing up multiple relationships as a result of that one action (if successful).
The vast majority of folks who live here, in the UK, see these situations totally differently. One of the most popular 'Romance Films' ever seen here is 'Bridges of Madison County.' In the film the couple separated and never communicated again until after death, by bequest. But the principle character, the Farmer's wife, understanding more than ever about love, befriended a local lady who had been estranged by most of the community because of her adultery.
I would guess that circa 90% of UK viewers felt high levels of understanding and love for the estranged lady. But it begins to look to me as if some US townships might still judge her harshly, the hated adulteress who was caught and estranged.
Ergo, our heaven, or our hell, could be what's going on in our hearts and minds.