No, you hypocrite - she is lost and needs to be told.
She says one has to obey Jesus in order to get saved.
For her, believing that Christ died for our sins is not how one gets saved.
NOTHING ELSE any of us is talking about matters if she ends up lost - NOTHING.
Tell her that much - care about her that much. Quit being a hypocrite in this!
FOR HER SAKE!
More proof that your "two gospel" theory is being destroyed by scripture.