Thank you.
...I certainly try to do the same.
Jesus's sage advice has helped me in many of my life situations...
I pray the Our Father, as He taught us to pray. And when I pray, "And lead us not into temptation," I think that some of that is not leading us into a situation where it is too tempting to not forgive someone; to hold a grudge, or worse, to hate.
...I used to think others "had a problem" but I discovered I was sorely mistaken...
I used to think that, but I discovered I was sorely mistaken. Others
do have a problem; but it's the same problem I have. My flesh is carnal, just like everybody else's. It does what it does intentionally, but not deliberately, as that requires self-consciousness and self-awareness. The way my mind tries to make me aware of what I'm doing, is to be transparently deceitful and hypocritical; transparently enough that I can see it. Once I can see it, then I can start being deliberate rather than unthinkingly intentional, which is what animals do.
...It was ME that had the problem: projecting my own anger and hurt onto others and blaming THEM for my problems...
That's part of showing yourself how hypocritical you are. That's intentional also, but still not deliberate, since you're still not aware of what you're doing.
I'm not denying you your problem; I'm suggesting that your problem is not the problem; your problem is that you can't see your problem. That's why we are all driven to hypocrisy, in the hopes that we see what we're doing clearly, rather than snooze through life, which is what we're all doing otherwise.
...They didn't have a problem at all. They were doing their best to navigate through the same life that I experience. It was me that had the problem...
You've been doing your best all along. You don't really have a choice but to do your best. Your brain takes away that choice from you; even when you know you're not trying your hardest, you are.
...Jesus taught me to own it. Look at myself instead of judging or blaming others.
We have to place blame where it belongs, and if someone commits a crime, we have to blame them for it and not something or someone else.
But we should all understand and appreciate that we are all trying our hardest to make a go of it in this life.
DJ
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