It is not hopeless, unless one seeks to justify and remain in one's Old ways.
Love is the answer. It is all about love.
The world has lost love.
Love has been replaced by ideals and laws (including the law and canons).
Ideals and laws are 'dead people' tools. 'Dead people' are the spiritually dead. Ideals and laws killeth (spiritual awareness). Spiritual 'dead-ness' makes one contained, selfish, self-serving and totally physically centered.
For example, man/woman associations among the spiritually dead is centered naturally and spontaneously only in sex and jumping in bed for sex. However among spiritually aware people their associations are naturally and spontaneously centered on prolong honing and prolong expression of love, emotions and feelings.
Traditional Christianity have been trying to impose the latter practice on their charges by forcing abstention from sex until marriage. This is simply cosmetic. Physical sex is the only expression among spiritual dead couples. Their sexual act, whether in or out of marriage will always be purely physical and bring forth only children of the flesh.
The idea is to actualize the spiritually dead to spiritual awareness. Then physical sex will be always done out of an expression of love. Whether or not this is done in or out of marriage, it does not matter. Their sexual procreation will always be an expression of their love and will bring forth only children of God. This is where one need to be. This defines a Christian life style.
Love is the tool of the living. The living describes the spiritually aware. The Spirit/Love giveth life. Love makes one spiritually alive or spiritually aware. Spiritual awareness makes one expanded, expanding, loving, out flowing and all including.
Do not let your spouse, your boss, your priest etc. quote ideals and laws to keep you 'in check' and so prevent you from loving freely, openly and fully. Do not let your spouse, your boss, your priest etc. quote ideals and laws to keep you 'in check' and so prevent you from expressing your love freely, openly and fully.
This (the above) is not a simple request. It is a request to dismiss and go against all prevailing ideals and laws of society, morality and religiosity, in order to obey urging of love which arises and are sustained naturally and spontaneously within your heart or spirit for those specific people, things and circumstances in God's creation.
In essence this is to be led by the Spirit of the Lord Jesus. One who is led in this manner has God given freedom, liberty and justification to transgress the law and get no sin but instead be glorified by God.
This goes against all prevailing social, moral and religious norm. However, this is the only way to be relevant and survive in, the new spiritual age which now rules the surface of earth. As you may realize that one cannot simply take a decision to do the above and do so. One must be driven uncontrollable, powerfully and confidently to do so.
This requires a transformation from being spiritually dead to being spiritual aware. This relates to a shifting of mind. One must shift from one's sub-conscious mind to one's expanded and unbounded mind. And retain that shift or awareness.
Those who esteem ideals and laws are loveless.
Those who delight in laws are the spiritually dead. They are naturally disconnected. They are dead. They are by nature heartless. They also delight in intellectualizing. They use ideals and laws to justify wars, starvation, destruction of the life sustaining aspect of the creation and division in the world. The spiritually dead also use ideals and laws to sustain their loveless marriages.
A spiritually dead person commonly and easily use prevailing ideals and laws of society, morality and religiosity (in conjunction with fear) to keep a spouse locked in marriage with him or her. Then together, in their loveless marriage and loveless procreation, they bring forth only children of the flesh (no children of God).
The spiritually aware are intuits. They are 'hearts' people. They are naturally 'connected'. They are spiritually aware and connected. They delight in love.
On earth, for the past 2000 odd years, intellectualizing (law orientation) has replaced and totally relegated intuiting (love orientation). That defined a totally dark age.
This has changed. Intuiting and love are reclaiming their supreme position.
Survival can be had only individually. By each person returning to the supremacy of love.
Everyone is connected by love.
Ideals and laws oppress love and divided mankind, everywhere.
However one cannot simply decide to love. One as to regain one's awareness of love which exists and connect one to everyone else.
Fact is if one can transcend one's subconscious mind, one will rise to one's expanded and unbounded mind. Then one will naturally, spontaneously and actually feel one's love connection to everyone else. One's love will not be containable.
Then one will actually know what it means to love thy neighbor.
Abba's songs and music seems magical for awakening love. It awaken one to one's expanded and unbounded mind. (this is my personal experience. I was reluctant to add it here.)
The entire Christian tradition is anchored on spirit and Spirit. The essential fabric of spirit and Spirit is love. 2000 years ago the Lord sought to reintroduce love to those essentially loveless people. The Lord sought to introduce the rule of love over ideals and laws. They denied, persecute, torture, blasphemed and killed him for his effort.
Now the rule of love over ideals and laws cannot be stopped on earth.
You are aware that God is Love. God is simply reclaiming the surface of earth. Adapt or be relegated. One's relevance is not in words. It is in power. One cannot simply say that one will love. One must have the natural power or drive to love.
This natural power or drive to love comes from spiritual awareness.
If a person is not spiritually aware he will discern ideals and laws to be wise and supreme. Then although he cannot experience love's urging, he will always override love's urging (of others) with ideals and laws. He will oppress and rule spiritually aware/loving people with the strong stick of ideals and laws. This is both, anti Christian and anti-God.
Traditional Christianity have been doing this for millenniums. They have been creating and sustaining law based, loveless union among their charges, for millenniums. Nothing works without love. Also in loveless marriages, no children of God are brought forth, only children of the flesh are brought forth. This nonsense will now stop.