No they are not Two separate events, neither does scripture say that they are.
Of course they are two separate events, and of course scripture says so.
To be reconciled to God is to be accepted by Him, and put into a right relationship with Him.
Yep.
You deny that those in a Right Relationship with God are Saved ,
Yep.
Scripture tells us that many are called but few are chosen.
The many that are called are the ones that are reconciled by accepting that the blood of Jesus was shed for their sins.
That is not enough to be saved, because God will choose His elect from among those that have been reconciled based on how they live their faith after they have accepted the reconciliation.
Please note that the choosing is all up to God, but answering the call is all up to us.
An analogy is when a director for a play announces a casting call.
Many people will line up for the chance to gain a role in the play, but the director will only choose a few of those that answered the call, and will not choose any of those that did not answer the call.
And all of that ignorance is held by you.