beefalobilly
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ebenz47037 said:Conservative and California do not go together. :chuckle: That's one of the biggest reasons I left six years ago.
You gotta find the right place
ebenz47037 said:Conservative and California do not go together. :chuckle: That's one of the biggest reasons I left six years ago.
beefalobilly said:You gotta find the right placeI live on the central coast, right inbetween LA and san francisco, but removed from their influence.
The Berean said:Parents play a big role in their child's social skill development. This past weekend I went to Fresno to met my new brother-in-law. He has three kids, one girl and two boys. They are not home schooled. The daugher is amazingly talented and beautiful young lady. She plays classical paino, the violin, gets straight A's, sings worship at church, was a great swimmer before she quit and is preparing for the SAT test . Oh, and she is 14 years old. But she is extremely shy. I asked her to pray before dinner but she wouldn't do it. She said she'll mess it up. Her two brothers are the opposite. They are total chatter boxes. Her parents are extremely proud of her and she is very smart but I get the feeling that her parents haven't been as deligent in teaching and developing her social skills. I curious to see what she is like personality-wise at age 18-20.
beefalobilly said:You gotta find the right placeI live on the central coast, right inbetween LA and san francisco, but removed from their influence.
ebenz47037 said:I was extremely shy when I was a teenager, Berean. I got straight A's, was in the high school choir, sang solos in church all the time, and was in the church choir. I stayed shy pretty much til I was about 25. I still am a little bit until I get to know people. It's just her personality type. There's nothing anyone can do to change that. Don't worry about her. She's fine.
My daughter, on the other hand, is extremely socially-inclined. She wants and has many friends. She also sings in church and gets pretty much straight As with homeschooling. She's 15 now and will be prepping for her SAT/ACT in two years.
The Berean said:No way! Do you live near SLO? I graduated form Cal Poly.
I think homeschooling helped my social skills in many ways including, good grammar (my father has always insisted we use proper grammar usage when speaking), clear enunciation, and a proper attitude (espeically toward those older than me).beefalobilly said:in what ways do you think it's helped you? My social skills suck and I went to a public school but I dont really think it's due to the school, it's just because i'm naturally shy.
beefalobilly said:Yeah, I live about 30 minutes from there, in paso robles, I've got a couple friends going to cal poly, and I'm going to cuesta right now :vomit:
In fact, our pastor moved, and our interim pastor is a former professor from cal poly, dr. abitia. He taught business I think.
Christine said:As a homeschool grad (this year) I can honestly say I don't believe that being homeschooled has hindered my social skills in the least. In fact, I believe homeschooling has helped me to develop better social skills than I could/would have had if I had attended public school.
jack jackson said:I have been approached by numerous people who say that homeschooling leads to a decreased ability for the child to interact properly with other children. Is there any substance to this accusation?
jack jackson said:The alternatives: bullying, shootings, unsafe schools, kids picking on other kids, inadequate teachers....yes those are bad alternatives.
erinmarie, can you provide more of an answer? I'm interested in more thoughts here.
Thanks.
That is why we have choosen to homeschool. We desire to raise children not monkeys.Crow said:By contrast, a friend's child and his public schooled buddies behave as I envision Neanderthals would. Scratch. Pick. Belch. Fart. The sound of lips smacking. Conversation: "Uh huh. Uh uh. No way. Maaaaaaannnn."
:think:Now, you can right this off to being male,
:thumb:Knight said:[
Yet, that seems to be the modern day philosophy for teaching kids social skills. People send their kids off to school hoping that they will pick up social skills. Well I have news for ya . . . your kids WILL LEARN social skills, BAD social skills!!!! :shocked:
Yet, homeschooled children certainly do need to practice their social skills therefore the external activities outside the house.
Freak said:That is why we have choosen to homeschool. We desire to raise children not monkeys.
:think:
beefalobilly said:I think a lot of what you have to say about public schools is kind of over-done, I mean it's not like kids go to public schools to get loaded and have sex. That stuff happens after school, and just because a kid is in church or youth group doens' tmean they won't be inovolved with that, I know plenty of kids who are regular with youth group and still go out and party and drink etc. There's always goign to be bad kids at public schools, but there's also going to be good kids who hang out together. I think if a parent has done their job, then there shouldn't be too big of a problem going to a public school.
And girls will be berated by guys no matter where you go. It's not public schools, it's the culture and nature of people. And if you're really trying to protect your children from the influence of other people, then you'd have to cut off interaction with other people completely, there's going to be a negative influence just about anytime you interact with another person.
Church youth group? I thought DBC was against that idea.Knight said:My oldest daughter plays ice hockey and attends youth group weekly.
This happens with children outside of homeschooling as well Nori. My children were not homeschooled, but have always been good communicators with adults as well as others of their own age. This is because their father and I have never 'babied' them, teaching them how to socialise with others no matter the environment they are in, as well as the perhaps 'inherited' ability to do this, as I was the same.ebenz47037 said:There is no deficiency. My daughter, not only socializes with friends her own age, but she can talk to anyone with confidence.