There is some agreement with a few of your points here, but I've had to express clearly where we disagree and give scriptures for the disagreement. Please read these scriptures with me:
I disagree that such is 'true' love. Love? Whatever one does intending the well-being of another is love. The 'ability' to choose isn't anything really. Cognition is simply an appreciation, thus "we love, because He first loved us." It has every indication that He taught us how. This doesn't require nor need me to 'make a decision' as much as simply doing the thing required. It is a form of narcissism to think that God has to defer anything to you in order to 'be loved' or to 'love you.' It really and only strokes the ego but worse? Is describing the only way some of you understand love (with strings attached and not as purely as Agape' insists). You've a few scriptural directives to 'deny self' and to 'take up your cross and follow.' As such, this narcissistic reflection on self for choice and reciprocation makes us entirely too self-interested and self-focused for it to be any kind of Godly love. I'm convinced of this and have to say this strongly because it is immensely important:
Php 2:1 So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, Php 2:2 complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind.
Php 2:3 Do nothing from selfish ambition (narcissism self-centered-ness) or conceit, but in humility (other-centered, God-centered) count others more significant than yourselves.
Php 2:4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Php 2:5 Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,
Php 2:6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped,
Php 2:7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.
Php 2:8 And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.
I don't believe you are correct here. Love does indeed compel (compulsion). Luke 14:23 The word is 'compel, no choice.' More scriptures to follow...
:nono: 1 John 4:19 Love isn't the exception, its the rule. It is expected. John continues simply to say, if you don't, you don't belong to God. Philippians 2 went as far as to say to esteem others better, more important, more significant. My kids are loved. I cannot demand love of them, BUT they do love because they were loved and this specifically taught them how. The choice stuff? :nono: Proverbs 22:6 Kids will love because 1) they were trained to do so and 2) because it is right. The 'choice' imho is self-serving and self-interested. It does bother me that Open Theists equate 'choice' as love. There is little truth to that statement and it is egocentric in conveyance. I wholly disagree that God had to give 'choice' and 'free will' in order for man to 'learn to love.' Adam and Eve loved well and beyond before their fall because they were made by a Loving Being "in His image." Love itself is lessened because of choice, not enhanced by any means. It is only when we lose ourselves that we find ourselves. Matthew 16:25 Luke 9:4 Love isn't found by 'choice' but by Love Himself. John 15:5
Imho, this also is why marriages fail for 1 in every 2 among Christians. Love is sacrifice.Ric Cua echos Philippians with For the Love of God
"...Some days he might not like it, but he does it any way, for the love of God...."
I don't know what the hyper Calvinist believes concerning this :idunno:
Except one thing: Love is indeed power, it changes men and it is also compulsive. RATHER what I use to 'compel' my kids is on the table. What 'makes' us love is what is on the table. I totally argue: by love, I've been made to love. 2 Corinthians 5:14-15
So love can be 'compelling, influencing, pressing, instructive, constraining.'
:nono: This is reactionary and again self-centered in focus. This example rather shows what is in a man already. He isn't made to make a choice, nor is the comparison between mean and loving. I've been under both in school. How "I" responded had nothing to do with either teacher.
But you contrasted this with an example that talks of love as a response to two different stimuli. Such is simply rewarding good behavior, NOT teaching love. The Lord Jesus Christ told Peter "Satan, get behind me!" Harshness from God is 1) necessary and 2) coming from the definition of Love 1 John 4:8 We love and are loved so frailly, that we 1) don't grasp the height dept and breadth and 2) that we think God's love is the same way.
Luke 22:42 John 6:38 :think: A bad thing?
Agree. Philippians 2:4
It doesn't matter what kind of Calvinist or brand I am. All I'm interested in is what is biblical. The VERY first thing Calvinism affronted me with was 'dying to self' and me being 'less that I thought myself to be.' It was, indeed, an affront to self.
That simply must and has to be the first thing any future Calvinist will have to wrestle with: Carrying a cross of self. 2 Corinthians 5:17
I don't have the time to respond to this lengthy post. I will ask you one question that is very integral to your underlying thought though.
What was Jesus' mission with respect to His Father while Jesus was on earth?