On the contrary....I find believers who have seen exactly those same things the Spirit has shown me through the Scripture. It's only those things I have understood through my own reasoning that is up for debate. And, the funny part is that when I hear someone share the truth of what the Spirit has shown them, I see it's truth...and that is when I adjust my thinking.
I found this through the years of being in a New Testament assembly...where we had members of the body getting up and sharing what the Lord had opened to their understanding during the week. Those were the truths that were wonders and beautiful to behold. It's when we see the results of all this personal "study" that we run into disagreements....I'm not talking about that kind of knowledge. I'm talking about the real deal...and I've even seen it here on TOL. It's rarer, but it's there.
You and I obviously differ on this.
There is nothing mystical about the Spirit's leading one to an understanding on one thing or another - other than the mysticism many conclude is behind those findings of theirs that the Spirit has led them to; simply through time in His completed Word.
If they have gotten whatever understanding they assert out of Scripture soundly, to begin with, that is.
For we are all on an endless learning curve on the Scripture.
Too many confuse their own definition of "right" with what the Scripture may or may have not asserted.
Which they then assert the Spirit led them unto.
This is why people, say, like a dodge and his kind - who also assert a belief in the Spirit's leading - end up at ideas (that you and I both often see are clearly their own ideas), were inspired by, and or led unto, by The Spirit.
At the end of his life; the Apostle Peter notes to his readers that although he and His fellow Apostles had had their physical senses themselves for an evidence of The Glory they had witnessed firsthand; he was leaving his readers with a more sure word, or evidence, whereunto they would do well to heed the instruction of - the Scripture.
Because the private interpretation, or origin of, the Scripture itself; was without question.
For such had been the case as to the Spirit's leading outside of His Word back then; when He was inspiring Scripture's writers to "write it in a book."
They alone had had that access through their senses.
We have His completed Word.
The result being that things went from Eph. 4's perfection or establishment of the Believer through men gifted of God by the Lord through the Spirit, to 2 Tim. 3's establishment or perfection in understanding through God's completed Word.
Unless I read your post wrong; you are confusing someone agreeing with your findings on one thing or another as being some sort of a confirmation the Spirit led you both to that same understanding.
If through His Word; yes. But even this is the issue of through His Word.
The old "okay, boys and girls; let's put on our thinking caps and get to applying what we learned earlier about the who, what, when, where, why, and how of a thing, when reading..."
Outside of that, one is basically walking by one's own senses, or sight; not by faith.
I am challenging that.
As I would expect to be challenged on one assertion or another.
That is not "quenching the Spirit."
That too is nothing more, once more, than what you have read into that phrase.
Just as there is nothing wrong with pointing out to someone the need to consider learning how to properly study a thing out, Is. 8:20, Lk. 24:27.
Rom. 5:8
Acts 17:11,12.