ECT Hypothetical: adultery

[musterion]

Poll Q for the married, mainly.

You discover that your increasingly distant Christian spouse has been unfaithful. Confronted, they do not deny it but aren't particularly contrite either -- instead blaming the admittedly imperfect* marriage for "forcing" them to the arms of another while still married to you, who they know have been faithful.

*but with none of the usually cited issues (abusiveness, drunkenness, etc).

 

[Interplanner]

"Marriages can survive adultery, but they usually can not survive spite or disdain." --DennisPrager.com, Male-Female Hour

 

[Danoh]

Poll Q for the married, mainly.

You discover that your increasingly distant Christian spouse has been unfaithful. Confronted, they do not deny it but aren't particularly contrite either -- instead blaming the admittedly imperfect* marriage for "forcing" them to the arms of another while still married to you, who they know have been faithful.

*but with none of the usually cited issues (abusiveness, drunkenness, etc).

Sorry to hear, Musti; may you soon be able to move on.

 

[Danoh]

"Marriages can survive adultery, but they usually can not survive spite or disdain." --DennisPrager.com, Male-Female Hour

Geez; talk about one's over reliance on a system of ever relying on one book "about" or another for everything under the sun - don't you ever spend time in Scripture; your answers are ever someone else's reasoning and or labor.

Talk about adultry...

 

[themuzicman]

Poll Q for the married, mainly.

You discover that your increasingly distant Christian spouse has been unfaithful. Confronted, they do not deny it but aren't particularly contrite either -- instead blaming the admittedly imperfect* marriage for "forcing" them to the arms of another while still married to you, who they know have been faithful.

*but with none of the usually cited issues (abusiveness, drunkenness, etc).

Not enough details to determine. Each person must follow God's direction.

 

[musterion]

This situation does not involve my wife and I. It is a composite of Christian people I've read about and some I've known, but a serious real life issue nonetheless. It is hypothetical for whomever chooses to answer it (at least I hope it's only hypothetical for you).

 

[musterion]

Not enough details to determine. Each person must follow God's direction.

The details are sufficient enough for an answer, I think, but as you like.

 

[ebenz47037]

I chose that my marriage would be over because of the break in trust. I just don't think that I could trust my husband again if he had broken his vow to be faithful to me. I would forgive him. But, I don't think I would trust him again.

 

[serpentdove]

Poll Q for the married, mainly.

You discover that your increasingly distant Christian spouse has been unfaithful. Confronted, they do not deny it but aren't particularly contrite either -- instead blaming the admittedly imperfect* marriage for "forcing" them to the arms of another while still married to you, who they know have been faithful.

*but with none of the usually cited issues (abusiveness, drunkenness, etc).

A repentant man will confess his sin :banana: without assessing blame to the victim of his crime—his wife (Lev. 20:10–12). If he is not willing to admit his sin, then more time is needed for restoration where restoration is possible (1 Cor. 7:10–17).* All liars go to hell (Re 21:8). Church discipline is necessary for the adulterer (Mt 18:15-17). If he doesn’t repent, he’s going to hell (Jas 5:20).

Not many escape once ensnared by an adulteress (Prov. 7:6–23).

Our culture does not take marriage seriously (Jer. 16:2); but, God does (Heb. 13:4). She is his joint-heir of the grace of life ‘esha [fire of life]’ (1 Pe 3:7). When he shows up at the Great White Throne without her, he if left only with a consuming fire (Ga 6:7). :burnlib:

*The wife is not required to return to intimacy with her defiled husband (Deut. 24:4, Mt 19:11, Jn 10:10, 1 Co 7:15).

 

[serpentdove]

"Marriages can survive adultery, but they usually can not survive spite or disdain." --DennisPrager.com, Male-Female Hour

Prager is :banana: a serial adulterer (Rom. 7:2, 3). :dizzy:

 

[serpentdove]

[Dennis Prager] [Y]our answers are ever someone else's reasoning and or labor.

Prager rejects Mt 5:28. :hammer: He’s a defiled reprobate (Gal. 5:19). :banana:

 

[serpentdove]

...Each person must follow God's direction.

The community around the couple (Jer. 16:2) usually does not implement church discipline (Mt 18:15-17); :reals: and so, the sinner is lost for good (Jas 5:20). :banana: They have blood on their hands (Eze 33:8).

 

[serpentdove]

Reconcile at any cost…

Reconciliation is encouraged (1 Cor. 7:10–17).

Seek to reconcile, but only after they admit they chose to sin.

Lying to one’s spouse is stealing their life (Re 21:8); because, it’s taking reality from them (Ferguson). Our culture does not take lying seriously; but, God does (Ps 15:4 ESV, Lk 17:26-29). :burnlib:

Do not accept the blame.

Was the victim of the adulterer cheering him on

when he broke his vow? :dizzy: Heb 13:4

 

[musterion]

I chose that my marriage would be over because of the break in trust. I just don't think that I could trust my husband again if he had broken his vow to be faithful to me. I would forgive him. But, I don't think I would trust him again.

I can absolutely understand that response.

 

[Interplanner]

I can absolutely understand that response.

Agreed.